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The world is filled with endless natural beauty, loaded with lots of new experiences along the way. Some children refuse to try new activities. This attitude can be very frustrating to parents. Some kids simply state, I’m not doing that!
There are children who won’t participate in classic summer activities such as swimming, diving, hiking, or roasting marshmallows at a campfire. What about kids who flat out refuse to try a musical instrument, sign up for a new sport, or visit a museum? Or what about playing with the same two friends, and objecting to expanding one’s social horizons?
There are many reasons children want to play it safe and do just what they know well. How much video game playing, texting, and TV watching can a young person do? In fact, kids are involved with electronic media about 7 1/2 hours a day, instead of actually learning, seeing and doing in the non-virtual universe.
Self-esteem issues are one of the main reasons that a young person stops trying. There is a new, easy way to build up your child’s confidence, by learning encouraging strategies to undercut fear, renew belief in oneself, and deal with common self-esteem blunders such as mistakes, criticism, and embarrassment. In just a week’s time, with a few minutes a day of practice, young people can acquire the confidence skills to help them say, Yes to new experiences. Then, the world is open to them.
To read more about child confidence, check out: Learning from Mistakes Builds Confidence and Losing Friends and Making New Ones: Confidence Helps Kids
When most people think about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder in children or adults, the symptom of compulsive hand washing is what comes to mind. Although this very famous OCD symptom is one of many possible
OCD problems, it has become the worldwide trademark of this disorder. The chapped hands, dry skin, and red knuckles which come from excessive hand washing are often the first clues that a child may be suffering from obsessive compulsive worrying.
Hand washing develops in this way. Children with this OCD symptom have an obsessive thought that something bad will happen if they do not clean their hands perfectly. The something bad can be different for different children. For example, some children worry that their hands have bad germs on them, others may fear that they will be responsible for making their families sick if they don’t get their hands perfectly clean.
To relieve this OCD worrying, children develop the compulsion to wash their hands over and over. They wash more frequently and for longer times than is necessary for proper hygiene. Often, they have precise routines that they feel they must follow. For example, they may feel the need to use a certain amount of soap, wash for a certain amount of time and in a certain pattern, followed by a certain amount of rinsing for a certain amount of time. Drying of hands in a particular pattern and for a particular amount of time can also be involved. If the routine is not followed precisely, the child may feel that the entire routine must be repeated from the start and performed perfectly. Kids feel better for a while after they do their hand washing routines, but the anxiety always returns, and the child feels a sense of urgency to do the hand washing routine again. OCD routines characteristically grow, – the hand washing routine that makes a child feel better at one time often becomes insufficient to relieve the anxiety in kids and the routine must be extended to give the child a feeling of relief.
OCD in children, and specifically, excessive hand washing CAN be helped. Children with this OCD symptom can be taught to resist the urge to perform the compulsion. Cognitive Behavior Therapy teaches children thinking and behavior skills designed to relieve the anxiety from the obsessive thoughts, and the heightened anxiety they feel when they say No to compulsive hand washing.
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To learn more about thinking and behavior skills to reduce worry and anxiety, check out the Outsmart Your Worry Tool Kit for Kids®.